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Every month I drove my dying husband to an office his children thought was physical therapy. At his funeral, his son gripped my wrist and said, “Pack a bag, Helen. This house goes to real family, not his nurse.” I smiled and said, “Then wait for Friday.” Behind him, his sister was already holding my house key — the one she had lifted off the hook by the kitchen door.
They have called me “the nurse” for nine years. It is true that I was Arthur’s nurse first, after his heart attack, before I was his wife. Roy and Sandra never forgave either of us for that.
When the cancer came back two years ago, they started visiting again. Not to sit with him. Roy walked the garage with a tape measure, planning where his boat would go. Sandra carried the good silver out to her car “for safekeeping.” One night at the hospice they brought papers to his bed while the medicine had him drifting, and put a pen in his hand.
Arthur kept his eyes closed and let the pen fall on the blanket. After they left, he opened one eye and whispered, “Helen. First Tuesday.”
So on the first Tuesday of every month, I helped him into the car, laid his cane across his knees, and told the children we were going to physical therapy. We drove instead to a small brick office downtown, to a lawyer with white eyebrows named Mr. Katz. Twenty-two drives. I sat in the waiting room with old magazines while my husband did his business behind the door, and every single time he came out looking stronger than when he went in.
